According to Merriam-Webster, "kinky" is defined as "relating to, having, or appealing to unconventional tastes especially in sex." While this may be its technical definition, kink exists on a spectrum — and how one person defines kinky may look different than how another person defines it.
For example, someone who's already very experienced in the BDSM lifestyle may not think a blindfold is a kinky sex toy. But for people who have yet to explore kinkiness, they may see a blindfold as a big step in their sex life. Both of these experiences are valid, of course — it just shows that varying opinions of what kink means is normal, OK, and expected. Leather Harness
Because kinky runs the gamut, however, so do BDSM sex toys. From light bondage toys like blindfolds and restraints to more extreme sex toys that include leather hoods and electrode play, kinky sex toys also exist on a spectrum. But no matter how hardcore or beginner you are, when delving into the world of BDSM, there are important rules that must be applied.
For starters, it's imperative you communicate your wants and needs with your partner before, during, and after play. Establishing boundaries, consent, and sharing your safe word (the word you say out loud to immediately stop everything), are also paramount before getting involved with any of these kinky toys.
You'll also want to prioritize aftercare when you're finished, which is known as a "soft landing" after BDSM and kink play. Think about it as the time to connect with your partner afterward; you can talk about your experience, give each other massages, eat together, or even just lay and cuddle.
If you feel ready to dive into the world of kinky sex toys or you're ready to add to your already existing BDSM sex-toy pile, we've rounded up the best kinky sex toys to shop now. From the super beginners to the veterans of kink, this list of 10 kinky sex toys will have something for everyone.
Bondage Boutique Black Rose Faux Fur Lined Blindfold ($11)
Used to deprive the sensory of sight, blindfolds are a great introduction to kink play. When sense is subtracted from the equation, your other senses are heightened, which ultimately increases pleasure. No need for batteries or lube, this 10-inch-long accessory slides over your head and onto your eyes easily.
MAZE Wide Choker and Leash ($51)
When it comes to harnesses, collars, and leashes, Bijoux Indiscrets is a fantastic women-run business to support. Not only is everything in their MAZE collection ridiculously sexy, but it's all vegan and ecofriendly. Wear this collar and leash to explore pet play with your partner.
Because our culture is so genital-centric, we sometimes neglect other erogenous zones like our nipples. But believe or not, engaging in nipple play can take your orgasms to new heights. While some nipple clamps only offer one tension, these clamps allow you to slide the small ring back or forth to tighten or loosen their grip — perfect for those who are new to nipple play.
Unbound Orion and Bit Bundle ($70)
If you're new to kinky toys, this might look intense, but don't worry: the Unbound Orion and Bit Bundle is just another way to experiment with sense deprivations. Whether you use the cuffs and the bit on your partner or they use them on you, the physical and mental aspect of being bound and unable to speak can be really freeing.
Let this be a reminder, however, that communicating with your partner beforehand is essential. You don't want to go into being bound in any way without having discussed boundaries and hard limits. And since you won't be able to speak to use a safe word, decide on a non-verbal cue (like tapping your feet) that could signify you want play to stop.
What's great about whips is that, when it comes to pain levels, they are the midway point between a spank with a hand and a paddle. Made of 11-inch-long satin ribbons, this whip delivers the right amount of pain wrapped up with pleasure. And, because of the fabric, there's no need to worry about breaking the skin or leaving a mark.
Doc Johnson Japanese Hot Wax Drip Bondage Candles ($15)
If you ever stuck your finger in a pool of hot wax and liked it, then drip bondage just might be for you. Candle wax is a fantastic way to explore pain and sensation play in a safe way that's not going to leave you or your partner covered in blisters. These candles are odorless and are cooler than any regular household candle you might have laying around, making them a far better (and safer!) option for those looking to get their hot waxing on.
Fetish Fantasy Spandex Open Mouth Bondage Hood ($25)
Hood play is very much a thing among some people in the BDSM community. It allows the submissive person to completely focus on the sensations while their dominant partner takes control. Ease your way into hood play with this one from Fetish Fantasy.
Lovehoney Take Control Bondage Kit ($70, originally $100)
Speaking from experience, this kit is fantastic for anyone — no matter your relationship with kinky play. It really has everything you need, and considering what's in this bundle, it's incredibly affordable, too. From the strap-on and the ball gag to the cuffs and the whip, this kit has quite literally anything you would need to explore BDSM play.
This spreader can be used between the legs and cuffed to the ankles, or you can use it between your arms and attach it to your wrists, depending on what you and your partner are craving. Made of sturdy metal, no one is crushing this spreader with their quads.
DOMINIX Deluxe 2 Inch Double Metal Cock Ring with Locking Ball Strap ($9, originally $30)
Face Mask Whether you're a dominant who wants to keep your penis-owning submissive out of trouble or you are a penis-owning submissive who wants to do right by your dominant, this contraption is going to keep everyone happy.